Personal Boundaries

Last week I wrote about personal space or Proximics, but I mentioned personal boundaries because they also are about the physical, emotional and mental limits we use to protect ourselves.  Personal boundaries are used in all aspects of our lives.  We all have them even if we aren’t aware of them on a conscious level.  Good personal boundaries are about self- knowing and self-respect, being aware of our personal needs and confidence in our beliefs and actions.  If you have any codependent behaviors you may have problems with personal boundaries, but by taking calm assertive actions you can begin to create personal boundaries that serve you and not others.  Creating healthy personal boundaries is about developing one’s personal power.  Carl Rogers believed “The individual has within himself vast resources for self-understanding, for altering his self-concept, his attitudes, and his self-directed behavior.”  It always comes back to awareness, when we find our boundaries being challenged we always have the choice to alter our response to the best possible outcome.